Recently I posted an article about how to learn yoga and was personally attacked for suggesting that videos and books are an option. I agree they aren’t the best option. The ideal way to learn yoga is in person from a certified yoga instructor, but now I’ll get comments asking me why an instructor needs to be certified if they’ve been teaching for over a decade and are properly trained. It seems like someone is always picking a fight.
Differences of opinion are normal
I also posted about the medical benefits of CBD oil, and someone started trying to argue about all the different manufacturing processes and which company is superior. It seems everyone in America has strong opinions and feels it necessary always to share those opinions with others. I’ve traveled to over 20 countries in the last few years, and I’ve found that the need to argue every little point is, for the most part, an American phenomenon. Yes, people share differences of opinion all around the world, but generally in a much kinder manner. So, what is up with America’s obsession with arguing?
Why Do We Argue?
Buddha said that before we speak, we should consider if the words are true, kind, and necessary. These are wise words we all should follow but generally don’t. Why not? Why do we feel it necessary to argue?
Dr. Phil often says, “Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?” I think most American’s feel like they need to be right so that they can feed their ego. Secretly, they feel inferior to other people, and proving that they’re right makes them feel important. It’s an empty conquest and it won’t make you happy. True happiness is found within, not in your external environment.
Social Media Has Intensified the Problem
Some people enjoy arguing
I believe some people enjoy arguing and that social media has exacerbated the problem. It’s now easier than ever to stir the pot and start spewing forth conflict and hostility without having to look the other person in the eyes. People can twist the truth and spin their words, or even call each other names, without a second thought. It’s making our country ugly. It’s dividing us, instead of bringing us together. What happened to our manners? Where is the love and compassion?
What is the Solution?
Love is the answer
Before you respond to a social media post or tell someone they are wrong, ask yourself about your motivation and the potential outcome. Are you trying to feed your ego or share helpful information? If your intent is to contribute and share information, approach it with curiosity and an open mind, instead of stubbornness and bias. Also, ask yourself if debating the issue is the best use of your time and energy. Will you change someone’s mind? Is a Republican going to become a Democrat because of your rant? I seriously doubt it, so why argue the point at all?
I see comments every day like “people are idiots.” I too see ignorant posts by uneducated people, but I simply snooze them or stop following them. Then I scroll on to something more positive. I choose to not focus on the negativity and hostility. The way you react in any situation is your choice. You can either become part of the problem, part of the solution, or do nothing at all. I choose peace. Will you?